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25 April 2009 @ 08:32 am
Tao of the Day  
Unconditional Forgiveness
Unconditional Tolerance
Unconditional Trust
Unconditional Love
Unconditional Faith
Unconditional Loyalty

Beware

If we insist upon
Forgiving the Unforgivable in the name of Forgiveness
Tolerating the Intolerable in the name of Tolerance
Trusting the Untrustworthy in the name of Trust
Loving the Unlovable in the name of Love
Unconditional Devotion in the name of Faith or Loyalty

Then we are in great danger of losing the Way

If Forgiveness, Tolerance, Trust and Love are Unconditional
That which cannot be taken away, can also not be truly given
Unconditional Forgiveness is Not Forgiveness
Unconditional Tolerance is Not Tolerance
Unconditional Trust is Not Trust
Unconditional Love is Not Love
Unconditional Devotion is Not Devotion

These things given unearned and unconditionally are a denial of reality
And they stunt the growth of the recipient
Hovering over them unconditionally, we block the light

Forgive within reasonable conditions
Tolerate within reasonable conditions
Trust within reasonable conditions
Love within reasonable conditions
Thus will we unblock the light, untie the knot
Let go
Maintain the Way
 
 
 
Greymalkingreymalkin on April 25th, 2009 04:39 pm (UTC)
Citation?
Is there a citation for this, or is it of your own creation?

Kburgunder on April 25th, 2009 04:40 pm (UTC)
Re: Citation?
Heh. You're the second person to ask. I'd love to know why!

Yep. I wrote it. But don't let that change your answer :>
Kburgunder on April 25th, 2009 04:41 pm (UTC)
Re: Citation?
It is my attempt to summarize some pretty intense truths that have come to me this week.
Angerieangerie on April 25th, 2009 05:39 pm (UTC)
Re: Citation?

It's simple-beautiful.

I'm surprised to see you say you've struggled with this concept, because I thought it was a point of agreement between you and I - between all the people closest to me. It's why people want me to be honest, why I want people to be honest with me - I don't need a blanket, I'm not trying to stay where I am. And if I come to you to use you as a blanket, it's worse than a waste of your time, it's an insult to both of us.

The part that hit me differently was the idea that if someone won't take something away, they couldn't actually give it. The only caveat I'd give (one of two, actually) is that trust, love, loyalty - they are not all or nothing. I love certain people in a certain way, in a barely-way, and I love you very differently. Trust you differently. I wouldn't my love is ever without conditions, but my time, attention and tolerance are all open questions.

2/2: I love my daughter unconditionally. But that's the reason she'll never be my "best friend," she'll never be anything but my daughter to me. I don't want anything from her, only want to give things to her. I might not extend trust, but my love, my tolerance, my loyalty - they're hers forever... I never thought about this, but it sort of limits the relationship because of that.

So, except for my daughter... I do not seek out or give unconditional love.

I'd like to hear what brought this up.
autonomic_pilotautonomic_pilot on April 25th, 2009 06:30 pm (UTC)
Re: Citation?
While not surprised about these concepts like angerie I can say at least that I've heard you speak of this before.

I understand the conundrum. What kind of solace can we find in love and trust when we 'know' it can be taken away? It's the kind of act that takes it away, that's the thing. A person worthy of trust is that way because they would *not* do anything to remove it. The issue is getting to know somebody... when you first meet them and have illusions about who they are (yours or theirs) then you are unable to give as much trust or love as you may be inclined to.

Benefit of the doubt is a good start. Doubt when it is proven necessary.

So much more that I want to write but my student is preflighting for our next flight and I have to get out there. More!

So glad you wrote this.
Kburgunder on April 25th, 2009 06:47 pm (UTC)
Re: Citation?
I'm surprised to see you say you've struggled with this concept

I've addressed almost every symptom of the concept, but lacked the concept itself until Tuesday night. Water is wet, wet, wet, but sometimes I've grown up believing otherwise - and faith of those early, ingrained principles can be hard to question or even identify.

I'd like to hear what brought this up.

I'll get back to you on this privately. It's a little too personal for the public part of my LJ. :>
MoonSilencemoonsilence on April 29th, 2009 03:41 am (UTC)
My comment upon first reading:
"Now those are words of wisdom."

My comment upon finding out you wrote them:
"Damn. Impressive."
Kburgunder on April 29th, 2009 04:28 am (UTC)
Pricey, pricey wisdom.

How are you, M?