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02 June 2007 @ 12:35 pm
Taochi Feely Tao of the Day  
Will the time ever come
when you must defend your views
or your feelings?
Could your beloved's own pain
ever cause an attack?
Be careful.
What manifests as an attack on you
is really a statement of fear.
If you attack in return
the fear escalates.

Defend yourself when necessary
with gentle confidence,
never with glee or satisfaction.
For when the battle is over
and you survey the damage done,
it will be a time for mourning.

- Lao Tzu (#31, trans. The Couple's Tao Te Ching by William Martin)

Translator's added commentary: Books on "fighting fair" give me pause. Rather than finding better ways to fight, might you be able to find the roots of your conflicts? This is certainly a difficult task, filled with emotion and fear. But if your goal is discovery instead of defense, deep peace is just ahead.
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Kburgunder on June 2nd, 2007 07:50 pm (UTC)
I haven't. It sounds like I should, yes?

Yeah, those two lines are so freaking powerful, and true, and hard to see in the moments when I'm under attack.
Mila: fog/treesm_cobweb on June 3rd, 2007 03:10 am (UTC)
A valuable reminder.