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18 September 2007 @ 10:30 am
Tao of the Day  
What keeps us unhappy and stuck in a limited view of reality is our tendency to seek pleasure and avoid pain, to seek security and avoid groundlessness, to seek comfort and avoid discomfort.

The mind is always seeking zones of safety, and these zones of safety are continually falling apart.

We spend all our energy and waste our lives trying to recreate these zones of safety, which are always falling apart. That's the essence of samsara - the cycle of suffering that comes from continuing to seek happiness in all the wrong places.

- Comfortable with Uncertainty, Pema Chödrön

From the Pema Tool Box

Experiencing our emotional distress. We practice dropping whatever story we are telling ourselves and leaning into the emotions and the fear. We stay with the emotion, experience it, and leave it as it is, without proliferating. Thus we train in opening up the fearful heart to the restlessness of our own energy. We learn to abide with the experience of our emotional distress.

This morning, I woke up with some respiratory trouble typical of changes in the humidity - fall is in the air in Seattle; drier.

Feeling sick often makes me feel sad.

And feeling sad makes me think about my most recent string of exes, lately.

I experienced emotional distress:
I felt abandoned.
I felt stupid.
I felt guilty.
I felt jealous.

Once upon a time, I shut someone out of my life to protect myself. Storyline!
I feel guilty. It is enough.

Once upon a time, I fell in love with a man whose public acknowledgment of me was limited to my proficiency at arrow fletching, but who shortly after our breakup referred to someone else as a fantastic lady. I'm a fantastic lady. Let me tell you how fantastic... Storyline!
I feel jealous. It is enough.

Once upon a time, I fell in love with a man before I saw his true nature. Storyline!
I feel stupid. It is enough.

Once upon a time, I thought our fears and insecurities would cancel each other out, and we would always have each other's backs. Storyline!
I feel abandoned. It is enough.

One of my super powers is definitely Justification via Storytelling. O:>
To Mega Thereminrwx on September 18th, 2007 06:20 pm (UTC)
Or is what makes us sad missing a friend posting about dinner in a nearby restaurant because we didn't check lj for a couple of hours?
Kburgunder on September 18th, 2007 06:22 pm (UTC)
Oh noes!! You must be more vigilant! GRiN

Is your phone operandi? If yes, I can text you next time I do that.
To Mega Thereminrwx on September 18th, 2007 06:28 pm (UTC)
yes phone is operational. send sms messages to b0m fONE 0nli ONE. whee!
Kburgunder on September 19th, 2007 05:55 pm (UTC)
Klesha mara is characterized by strong emotions. Instead of letting feelings be, we weave them into a story line, which gives rise to even bigger emotions. We all use emotions to regain our ground when things fall apart. We can turn this arrow into a flower by using heavy emotion as a way to develop true compassion for ourselves and everyone else.

p. 41-42, Comfortable with Uncertainty, Pema Chödrön