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23 September 2007 @ 10:27 am
On Dating  
I was trying to explain to thedivas how I'm feeling about dating on Friday, and came up with this amusing analogy, which I think perfectly describes where I'm at.

I am covered in gun powder, and I really don't want to handle any guns.


Shot through the heart
And you're to blame, darling

- the illustrious Bon Jovi.

Bang bang! What's that sound?
I gave you my love and you shot me down

- Danger Danger, "Bang Bang".

Stand tall, don't think small
Don't get your back against the wall
Shoot straight, can't wait
Aim for the heart and fire away

- Tommy Shaw, "Girls with Guns"

Every pop song on the radio
is suddenly speaking to me

- Ani Difranco, "Super hero" (I am just like everybody else...)

Maybe once I stop feeling so much like pop songs, and more like me, I'll think about it. Until then, I intend to drive my friends crazy with my light insanity, obsess about whether or not I can ever trust my judgment in romantic situations again, obsess about how to stop obsessing, become increasingly radical about reducing my carbon emissions, catch up on reading, study Linear A, buy stock in Toys in Babeland and tread with great ninja-like care if I find myself attracted to anyone anytime soon.

Also, I will turn my LiveJournal into an extremely dull daily reminder that it's OK to be single, since my shortest serial monogamy break, if you don't count my 2 year relationship with Jey, was 5 months between thogs_travels and firstfourisee, and I think that was only thanks to distractions like Christopher and An and Jade. I can do it! Damn it! I can! :| <-- determined asciini
nplusmnplusm on September 23rd, 2007 06:10 pm (UTC)
Being single is ok.

Being single is ok.

Being single is....OK.

I realize pop culture, general philosophy, tax law, cultural events, and general societal viewpoints encourage you to "find that other person". They speak as though, until you find that certain somebody, you are incomplete, you are behind, you are not as happy as you should be...


Being single is ok!
Kburgunder on September 23rd, 2007 06:22 pm (UTC)
The daily smacking of the tattoo... ow, quit it. ow, quit it.

Recognizing that accepting incompleteness is the only completeness we'll ever know...

Partners never filled that empty space for me, but that philosophy made that particular striving immaterial. The empty space is the Way Things Is. The empty space is what's most useful and best used about a cup, a house... and me, too.

I had it tattooed on my arm for when I forget and accidentally strive ;)

(it seems I've dropped into some trancey Tao babble state...)
Jonwajonwa on September 23rd, 2007 07:29 pm (UTC)
5 months?
Sometimes I feel like there is something really wrong with me.
My average is 3 years, my longest was 6 years. I'm currently knocking on 3 something years, I've lost exact count.
nplusmnplusm on September 23rd, 2007 10:14 pm (UTC)
being single is ok.
Jonwajonwa on September 23rd, 2007 10:16 pm (UTC)
I'm not saying it isn't, generally, but it's a real drag when you are really trying to not be.
Stray Catocicat on September 24th, 2007 11:36 pm (UTC)
On the other hand, it's a lot easier to find a good partner when you're really not trying to.

Ahh, iorny.
Jonwajonwa on September 25th, 2007 12:08 am (UTC)
God is an iron.
intrepid_reasonintrepid_reason on September 25th, 2007 12:33 am (UTC)
5.5 years, since any real relationship, not counting the casual dating.
intrepid_reason: I love me.intrepid_reason on September 25th, 2007 12:31 am (UTC)
I'm at:
Well you're a real tough cookie with a long history
Of breaking little hearts, like the one in me.
Before I put another notch in my lipstick case
You better make sure you put me in my place.
Hit me with your best shot!
Come on, hit me with your best shot!
Hit me with your best shot!
Fire away!